

What you want was very performant and easy doable with X11 (by its nature as a client/server architecture), but not with wayland. The additional Software layers on top of wayland will destroy performance and introduce all kind of issues.
Thats the price we have to pay for the shiny new things

I used a lot over the last 25 years of Linux, started with Debian, Suse Linux, then some years with Gentoo (i learned so much in that time, I can recommend it), and now I am using Arch.
Arch gives me lots of the freedoms and possibilites that I am used to from Gentoo but without the constant pain of compilation. I have Arch on my Desktop, all my servers, my NAS